I’m pregnant with baby #3 and due this spring! It’s hard to believe that just four years ago I was taking care of a newborn, my oldest, not knowing a thing about babies or being a mom. Now, here I am about to have three little people in my house. To be honest, I don’t feel that much more equipped to be a mom than I did four years ago, but I’m learning. I do remember a few things about babies since I’ve had two before this. The #1 thing I know is that babies do not care if they have a nursery or if it looks like it could be featured in a magazine!
I have a boy and a girl and, both times when I was pregnant & preparing for them, I wanted the perfect nursery set up with adorable matching sheets and coordinating changing table, lighting, etc. While it was beautiful and I so enjoyed putting it all together, some of it just wasn’t that practical. Our house set up is such that the master bedroom is on the opposite side from the other rooms. For this reason, my kids slept in a cradle in my room for the first 6 months of their lives anyway and the nursery went largely unused.
My house is pretty full these days with kids and toys…and a dog…I have no idea why I thought getting a dog was a good idea. So I’m going about this newborn baby thing a whole new way this time. I’m not preparing! I’m not decorating a nursery. I’m not setting up a picture perfect changing station. I’m not filling a room with cute stuffed animals that probably only the dog will show interest in. I’m not preparing in 4 big ways!
1. I’m not buying all the cute clothes I see in the stores.
I’m pulling the old baby clothes down from the attic and calling it good! I saved a lot of my son’s baby clothes (not as many of my daughters) and, lucky for me, #3 is a boy! I guess as the youngest you have to get used to hand-me-downs, right? I’m the oldest kid in my family so I don’t really have first-hand experience on this. But I think many of you who are younger siblings would probably agree with this. I’m sure I will succumb to a cute, brand new outfit here and there but my oldest son’s baby clothes are still adorable and (relatively) stain free so why not use them again?
2. I’m not setting up a nursery.
We have a 4 bedroom house so we have a room that can be set up for a baby. However, that room is currently being used as a play room and that works out fantastically for my family right now. Why change that when I know from past experience that I’ll want the baby to sleep in my room for a few months anyway? When the time comes for the baby to move into his own room, we’ll assess the situation and figure it out. For now, I’m not stressing about it.
3. I’m not buying a crib. Have you seen the price of cribs these days? Crazy! I’ll admit that I’ve never been willing to pay for a new crib. Both of my kids before this have slept in garage sale specials that I’ve fixed up and painted. So this point really isn’t a huge cost savings for me. I realize we may need a crib down the line and I’ll likely use that as an excuse to make a trip to IKEA. For now, baby #3 will sleep in his sister’s pink Rock N Play. It worked well for her and is still in great shape! I think this, among others, will probably be something that my kids will laugh about when they’re older. “Remember when mom & dad made little brother (who is yet unnamed) sleep in a pink cradle? Hahaha!”
4. I’m not planning to have a changing table. Several of you may argue with me that this is essential to having a baby in the house. I won’t disagree other than to say that we never used ours much. We laid a blanket down on our bed, or couch, or the floor to change babies. For us, the changing table just took up space more than it actually served as a functional piece of furniture.
If you know me well, you may know that this idea of not preparing goes against every fiber of my being. I’m a planner. I’m a decorator. I always WANT things to look nice and I NEED organization in my life. I’ve just decided that this time around I want to focus my energy and attention on other things. I have two other kids to consider during this huge life change as well as a husband who could use a break from my constant projects and house/furniture rearranging.
I’m preparing in other ways like talking to my kids about their new baby brother. This baby will be so loved and has four people in our house to take care of him, entertain him, and love on him. He may have to sleep in a pink cradle and wear hand-me-down clothes that have been stored in the attic but he’s not going to be lacking anything.
How are you preparing, or not preparing, for a new baby?