On Facebook I have around 500 “friends” but how many do I call to schedule a regular playdate?
And I am totally fine with that.
I’m always up for meeting new friends, but ultimately my tribe is small. Sure I have teachers, classmates, doctors, and what not in my life, but what I’m talking about is my inner circle. The ladies I’d call if I had an emergency, or the people I text on a sucky day. You know, the daily grind moms that I lean on.
I think there is such a push to build a humungous village of friends, and I’m here to say it’s okay if you don’t have or don’t want a huge tribe.
I’ll admit it: I used to feel a tinge of jealously when I’d see the popular moms who seemed to have it all together and appeared to have a massive plethora of close girlfriends. I’d be over come with FOMO when I’d see the pictures of her laughing and smiling with her huge mom tribe.
But lately I’ve accepted the fact that that’s just not who I am. Maybe it’s the introvert in me, but I much prefer the closeness of a couple of best friends.
Not to mention, it’s hard to meet people as we all grow older and have babies. It can be daunting to think about joining a new mom group. It’s not easy to connect and make meaningful conversations while we’re all chasing after toddlers and nursing babies.
Despite the fact that finding mom friends can be hard, it’s no secret that motherhood can be lonely. There are days that seem to drag on oh so long. Kids go through frustrating stages that make mothering hard. And it is during those long days that I am so grateful for my little group of mom friends.
You see, I may not have seventy friends at my beck and call, but what I do have is invaluable. My tiny mom tribe has been my support over the years. Sure some of the friendships I’ve let fade out, and some amazing new faces have joined my tribe, but what remains constant is the priceless support.
My mom village is overflowing with laughter and meaningful friendships. We will be there for each other during the storms of life. We have honest conversations about life trials and laugh ridiculously hard over inside jokes.
My tiny tribe doesn’t care if my house is dirty. They couldn’t care less if I show up to a playdate looking like a drowned rat after a long morning. My small group of friends are the kind of friends that stay at each other’s houses late into the summer nights while our children play and bicker like siblings while the adults share life and laughter.
So, I’m here to tell you, if you are like me and have a small tribe you’re not missing out on anything. Although tiny tribes may be small in number, they are large with love.