Me Time. Is it selfish or a necessary part of a mom’s life to keep her well balanced? For me it’s definitely a necessity. I love being a mom, but I also need activity away from my family that allows me to stretch my brain beyond memorizing all the My Little Pony characters and reminding my kiddo to share her toys and be kind to her friends and wipe her bottom and stop digging in her nostrils. Don’t get me wrong, I believe the time I spend with her is something to be treasured and a it’s a role that I don’t take lightly. Motherhood is a precious gift full of self sacrifice and it is TIRING work. Tiring, but rewarding. When my daughter was about a year old I found myself feeling drained and I strongly desired my own personal time. Something that would energize me yet give me a break.
At the time, I enjoyed lots of playdates with other moms and kids, but I was desperately seeking an outlet for myself that allowed me to think about something besides diapers, naptime, and breastfeeding. I already loved to read, so I asked some friends about their book club and they said I could join. Three years later it’s still something I look forward to each month! We meet once a month at various restaurants in the city, so not only do I get to stretch my brain while I read but I get to try out new delicious dishes all over town! People often ask when do I find time to read? I usually read when my daughter sleeps, so often in the evening after she’s in bed or during her rest times I can sneak in a few chapters. My book club reads all sorts of genres from fiction to non-fiction, classics to chick-lit, and tragedies to comedies. Yes some of us are moms so the conversation inevitably turns to our children during the meal – but that’s OK too!
Another thing I indulged in when my daughter was still in diapers was a gym membership (with onsite childcare available). I have never been an athletic or sporty girl, but after having a baby and some health issues that followed, I really wanted to get healthier. I found a few exercise classes I really enjoyed taking weekly. The classes were a great stress reliever for me and over time they even got to be fun! I have made some wonderful friends just by sweating beside them at the gym and we continue to encourage each other to keep living healthy lives over the past few years. Some of our kids have even formed great friendships with each other.
Me Time sounds so selfish, but I think when I allow time to rejuvenate myself in activities I enjoy doing, I have a better attitude, I am more rested, my brain is less foggy, I have more energy, I am happier, so ultimately I have more to give my husband and daughter…and that’s not selfish at all!
Whether crafting, cooking, journaling, kickboxing, photographing, swimming, marathoning, knitting, traveling, or spelunking….Do you have scheduled “me” time for yourself? What do you enjoy doing in your “me” time? Share in the comments!