Tina Ikpa

Tina lives in Norman with her husband Nsisong, daughter Idara, son Nsisong Jr., and mother-in-law Josephine. When she's not practicing law or shuffling kids between soccer, basketball, and piano, she enjoys reading, writing, lifting weights, boning up on useless trivia, and communicating in GIFs.
Black Little Mermaid

A Black Little Mermaid is Precisely the Little Mermaid We Need

Thirty years ago, I met a plucky, inquisitive redhead and decided she was my soulmate. She loved collecting weird things and bucking the status quo, and longed to see a world outside of what...

I’m a Teacher E-Mail Delinquent

It's a good thing for me there isn't a parent report card. Or at least if there is, I'm glad I've never seen mine. Don't get me wrong; I don't think I would be...

The Question I Never Expected My Rainbow Baby to Ask

"Hey Mommy, you know the other baby you were going to have before you had me? How come you had me instead of them?" So, out of all the things I agonized over in the...

3 Low-Pressure, High-Reward Resolutions You Can Still Commit to Now

I know what you're thinking: Who wants to make New Year's Resolutions now? We don't even know what next week holds, much less what will happen in a whole new year! Just in case...

I Don’t Want to “Make Nice”, I Want to “Make Better”

When children are little and get into conflict, we often take for granted that they aren't developmentally ready for nuanced conversations. We may separate them, confiscate whatever toy they were fighting over, and when...

3 Ways to Get Through Election Season in One Piece

It doesn't matter how many elections you've lived through, campaign season never gets any more pleasant. Add it to a year that has already been exponentially more challenging than most, and it's no wonder...

We’ve All Been Warriors: But Remember to Rest

Hey fam, I see you fighting the good fight. Speaking out against injustice, standing up for kids, researching and citing your sources, kicking butt, and taking names. Before the year was even halfway over, you...

Mask Wearing for Dummies

If you’re not a medical professional or in a field that regularly uses protective gear, you’ve spent the past few weeks getting used to wearing a mask in public. If you are in a field...

5 Ways Allyship is Like Helping a Friend Grieve

By now, most of us have developed, or are in the process of developing, effective language for supporting a friend through a crisis. Whether it be a friend who is dealing with fertility struggles...

Making peace with what may never return to “normal”

In my nearly four decades on earth, I've adjusted to my fair share of New Normals. Be it post-Columbine, post-Oklahoma City Bombing, post-9/11, or anything else, the meaning of "life as we know it"...

Coronavirus and Kids: Walking through Grief Together

I began the day like any other day of The New Normal: juggling my roles as educator, referee, and remote employee. Things were going decently well. I was preparing to tackle the week's deadlines...

When “Unfriending” is Self-Care

As an online content creator and fledgling online business owner, disengaging from social media altogether is simply not an option for me. Gone are the days when I could just decide to take social...